How to Refuse Dishes Offered to You That You Can’t Eat

Refusing Dishes

Saying no when offered a dish when you’re in another country can be offensive. Some cultures take pride with what they offer. If you say no, they might think that you dislike their food. Imagine how much work goes into some of these dishes. Declining the offer can be heartbreaking. However, you can’t force yourself to eat when you can’t. If you want to say but remain in these people’s good graces, these are the things you need to do

Be honest but gentle

You don’t have to sugarcoat it. If you can’t eat the food, you need to be honest. If it’s due to health or religious reasons, the other party will understand. They won’t force you if you can’t take the dish. You just have to be careful in your explanation. Make it clear that it’s not because of your dislike for the food. It’s about certain restrictions that you have to obey. If you don’t speak the same language as the other person offering the dish, you can ask someone to translate for you. Try to be nice and avoid being offensive. 

Control your emotions

There are times when you have to say no because you can’t take the dish. It either looks or smells bad. Even if you feel that way, you have to control your emotions. Don’t show how disgusted you are with what’s offered in front of you. Try to smile and look curious. You don’t have to eat the dish or pretend that you like it. Showing disgust or even vomiting could be very offensive. 

Learn to say thank you

Learn to say thank you

Before heading to a new country, the first thing you need to learn is how to say thank you. It’s a useful phrase. It also makes the people from the country you visited feel good. If you can’t eat the dish offered to you, the least you can do is to say thank you before declining. You have made an effort to appreciate the culture through the use of a local phrase. If you can learn others words to help explain your reasons, it would be great. You might also use the same phrases when ordering food at a restaurant. 

Try something else 

If there are other options available, you can try them. You don’t have to force yourself to eat whatever you can’t. Perhaps, there are other choices that you find interesting or at least willing to try. 

Keep things going 

Don’t make things awkward by concentrating on the food you can’t eat. Perhaps, there are other things you can talk about. You can try to ask about the dishes if there are no other topics to discuss. Your interest in understanding the ingredients or the process in preparing the dishes would be highly appreciated. In some cultures, keeping the conversation going is a sign of interest and respect

The best thing you can do is to learn more about the culture before you visit the country. You can avoid awkward interactions by preparing yourself. 

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